Stay In Your Lane

Never Compete Where You Don’t Compare

“Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.” – Dr. Seuss


*This is a Faith-based Post, but is relevant regardless of religious affiliation, or lack-there-of*

With Thanksgiving having just passed I find myself thinking about how blessed I am even more than usual. I spent 4 days with my family over the Thanksgiving holiday and it was amazing! It just brings forward for me, even more, how much people are always worried about the wrong things. People worry too much about what the wrong people think of them. They worry too much about what the wrong people are going to say about them, or what the wrong people are doing with their lives. Being with my family, surrounded by love, reminded me that this is all that really matters. What the “popular” crowd thinks of you on the whole scale of life is incredibly irrelevant. I tweeted this the other day and think it’s really the only way to live: “Don’t care what anyone thinks of you if they don’t sign your checks, pay your bills, or share your bloodline.”

Believe me, I understand the desire to fit in and just be like everybody else. It’s easier. I was that way for a very long time, just following the crowd and trying to be a part of something. It wasn’t until I realized that I was doing a disservice to the person God had made that I realized I was wrong. God made me this way. He gave me my personality, my character, and every tool I use day to day. To try and be like somebody else is almost sinful, if not so. He made me in his image the exact way I am supposed to be. That being said, forget what everybody else thinks! They don’t matter. They never did and they never will. As long as the person that signs your checks agrees you are the right person for the job, as long as the person who pays your bills (hopefully you) thinks you’re amazing, and as long as your family believes you are a good person it doesn’t matter what the rest of the world thinks. The rest of the world is trying just as hard to find themselves as you once were. Why value the opinion of someone still searching for a way to get to a point you’ve already reached? That would be like the blind leading someone with 20-20 vision. It just doesn’t make sense.

If you’ve done the work to figure out who you are and what you want out of life, you’re golden. All that’s left is to keep striving for success. There will ALWAYS be someone who doesn’t like you, has something to say about you, makes up rumors about you, etc., but just remember they’re lost. People secure in themselves feel no need to address the lives or character of another in a malicious way. People secure in themselves stay in their own lane. I like to think I’ve made my own lane (God gave me my own lane), and to try and compete with someone else is a futile task. The tools they’ll need to get to the end of their race will always be different than mine. Create your own lane. Stay in your own lane. Work hard in silence and let your product speak for itself. Be proud of who you are and who God made you to be. You are amazing in your own right, as you, so never forget to just Be You.

My only goal is to make a difference, increase self-acceptance and self-esteem in youth to young adults. Being young is hard, trying to find your way is even harder, and with today's culture being yourself has become a fuzzy concept. Join me as I navigate my way through, fashion, fitness, and the overall struggles of growing up. Wear what you want. Do what you want. Be Different. And NEVER be afraid to 'Be You.™'.

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