Why I Believe in the Be Your Own Valentine Cliché

“Love only yourself a little bit longer, until you can’t stand not to love someone else.” – Kiera Cass, Happily Ever After

I’m going to be completely honest with you guys. I absolutely forgot it was Valentine’s Day until I got on social media this morning and was strangled by posts. I don’t have a valentine this year, so think of this post what you will, but I don’t necessarily think I’m such a big fan of this pagan holiday. Mostly because it’s used in a lot of ways to brag about what you have, instead of simply enjoying living in peace and love. Many use it as an excuse to do something nice when true love, peace, and harmony should be constantly and consistently shown.

I have had valentines in the past, and we always did the Valentine’s Day parties at school and it was always fun; don’t get me wrong. My biggest issue with the holiday is the amplification of already problematic insecurities for so many people. I’ve said this before, but I’ll say it again: I think it’s imperative for young people to be alone for a while, just to feel out and figure out who we are and where we want to go in life. We change every day, every hour, or minute even, depending on who you are. Days like Valentine’s Day pressure people into believing they are less or behind the curve just because they chose a different route. The pressure to be in a relationship by February 14th, just so you don’t feel alone, is heavy. I know I feel it, and if you don’t have a valentine this year, I’m sure you feel it too!

So, my post today is about acceptance. Accept where you are in your life and use this day to celebrate that. If you have been blessed enough to find someone then celebrate them, because that is a success! If you haven’t found someone then pick a success in your life and celebrate that, even if it’s just that you woke up this morning. That accomplishment in-and-of itself is more than some people can say! Don’t feel discouraged or like you’re missing something, because truly truly you are not. We all grow at different paces, and the person we’re meant to be with will come to us in time. This I promise you! As long as you’re patient and put the proper time into yourself before embarking on the journey of building a life with someone else, you have successfully built the foundation for a prosperous future relationship.

And I know, as someone that’s single, it’s easy for others to read this and say, “She’s just bitter because she doesn’t have a valentine.” And if that’s how you feel then that’s how you feel, and I respect that. What I can tell you is that as a confident, smart, capable woman who has accomplished a lot in her short 23 years, I have no reason to feel bitter or unappreciative. God has given me more than enough, more even than I deserve, and today and every day I celebrate that, and maybe you should too!


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